Wedding Etiquette

Wedding Etiquette for Brides


Whether we admit it or don't wedding etiquette is still an important issue to many of us. We’ve all complained about weddings that we’ve attended. Or maybe you’ve heard some friends who have attended a wedding ceremony and learned after the ceremony that he or she was not invited for the wedding reception. Although it is acceptable and is within the wedding etiquette standard to invite some guests only to the ceremony and some only to the wedding reception, the guests should be informed of this fact before hand.

Basic Wedding Etiquette for Brides

What to Wear. Modern wedding etiquette allows a bride to wear any design that she wants in any color. Brides are not limited to wearing ultra white wedding dresses that have sleeves. They may wear a tube, halter or spaghetti strapped wedding dress in creme, beige or pastel colors. The world is your oyster. For the sake of wedding etiquette, the bride should also consider her cultural background and the church’s dress requirement. If your church requires you to wear a shawl over a tube wedding dress, then you must do so. If the minister or priest thinks that your red wedding dress is inappropriate for the church and asks you to replace your $10,000 designer wedding dress for a white wedding dress, then you should adhere to his request or choose another venue.

Who to Invite. It is basic wedding etiquette for a bride to talk to her groom about she would like to invite. It is the two of you who will get married, not only you. It is a violation of wedding etiquette if you invite someone your groom does not want attending the ceremony and reception. If it is your second marriage, you should not invite your ex-spouse or your ex-parents-in-law. Even if you two are in good terms with your ex, wedding etiquette dictates that you should not invite them. This is to avoid unnecessary confrontations or wedding drama. The only reason you should consider to allow your ex to be in attendance is if your children request your ex-spouse to be present, then you should talk about it with your groom. If he agrees, then invite your ex to be in attendance.

Pro Tip: If your groom disagrees with your ex being in attendance at the ceremony and reception you can invite your guests for a dinner at your home after your wedding or honeymoon. This private dinner is more quiet and will save you the trouble of explaining to your father and mother and other close guests why your ex-husband is in your wedding.

Gift Giving and Registry. It is a big wedding etiquette no-no to ask for cash gifts from your guests. Although it is a reality that newlyweds need cash as startup money, you don't want to ask for cash. Let your guest decide what to give. If he or she have decided to give you cash, be grateful. Do not ever ask your guests to fund a mortgage or fund a charity that you will establish as a wedding gift. Registry cards are acceptable. Wedding etiquette specialists recommend that you put up an online registry card and inform your guests through invitation that you have an online registry.

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